For divorced parents, the holidays often create tension with their ex, as they deal with sharing holiday time, dealing with issues of gift giving, their ex in-laws, and, at times, new paramours. I especially get complaints when one parents has not paid support–yet found the money to lavish their kids with the most expensive and desireable gifts of the year.
The reality is that the holidays bring to the surface almost all of the most difficult aspects of being a divorced parent–the key is learning to cope and eliminating the impact on the children. I have read many articles wherein divorced parents praise their ex as a good father/mother, talk about the ability to enjoy christmas morning together, and even how thankful they are for their ex’s new spouse. While it may not be realistic for every divorced couple to share christmas morning with their children in their old family unit, it is important to remember that the holidays are about the children, who want nothing more to enjoy christmas without the regular stress of co-parent strife.
With that in mind, below are some links to articles and resources for co-parenting during the holidays. Merry Christmas!