One of the most emotionally complicated and difficult aspects of a New Jersey family law case is dealing with child custody. While many cases are contentious, some couples can negotiate. However, there are basic mistakes that people make during the process that do not help their cause. In some instances, it hinders it. Avoiding them is a wise step.
Three points to remember during the child custody negotiation
Parents should remember three fundamental areas commonly experienced by mediators during a child custody negotiation. First, although the circumstances of the case are important to the participants, others are not so invested in it. Unless there was abuse or danger, people complaining about their ex-spouse’s behavior often falls on deaf ears. If the goal is to gain favor and a better custody outcome for themselves, it is unlikely to succeed as the mediator’s job is to be impartial. It is better to be evenhanded about the other parent.
Second, in the heat of the moment, it is easy to forget that the primary objective is to serve the child’s best interests. This supersedes the parents’ personal desires. If one parent is trying to alienate the child from the other, the mediator is likely to emphasize the damage this can do. The third point is that parents who try to implement rules that would make the other parent’s life harder tend to forget they are not only negatively impacting the child, but they are also putting themselves in a difficult situation with the child custody arrangement. It could reverberate and yield negative results for everyone.
Having experienced assistance can address potential challenges
Since people who are in the middle of a divorce will still be dealing with the lingering problems that sparked the breakdown of the marriage, it can be difficult to find common ground. Whether the sides are embarking on negotiation through mediation or the case is heading to court, understanding the factors involved could make the process go more smoothly.